Today while sitting in history I thought of something: people are such softies nowadays. Everybody is so offended by criticism. It seems to be OK when THEY do it to someone else, but the second someone criticizes them, they automatically freak out. I feel like by NOT criticizing certain things, people are being hurt more.
An example of this is when I play my oboe. I take private lessons and my teachers is ALWAYS giving me ways to better myself. If I play something completely out of tune he doesn't just say, "OK that was really good!" so as to not offend me. Instead he criticizes me and tells me, "Well, that wasn't that good. It was horribly out of tune. Play it over again." Then he gives me advice on how to fix my intonation problems and I do it again. Without him telling me it sounded horrible from a more experienced point of view, how would I ever know to fix it? And if I don't learn to fix it, how would I ever get better?
Another example is something my English teacher said. I'm not all too fond of this teacher, but he said something that I completely agree on. He told us that we weren't all the same, that we weren't all equal. He flat out told us, some people were better than others. Not all us can make it into Ivy League schools. Honestly, I agree with him. Some people ARE smarter than others. Some people ARE more talented than others at certain things. I feel as though we have been coddled our entire life and brought up to think that we are ALL just as good as one another. However, we of course know that we aren't. It all depends on how much work you put into whatever you do. If you sit around and don't do homework but still expect to get an A in the class, then you're wrong. Plus, I believe that when taking criticism, it will make you work harder. If somebody tells you that you truly suck at something, wouldn't you want to try harder just to prove them wrong?
If you want to tell me my blog sucks, GO AHEAD. I promise you I won't be offended. I personally think criticism (both positive and negative) is good to hear.
alright so you said that eveyone wasn't equal to each other, yet you said it matters how much work that person put in to whatever they do. by saying it depends on how much work you put in it's saying that everyone is equal, but they just don't put in the same amount of work. like for instance two people are doing the same project, one person gets an A and one gets an F. they both could've gotten that A, but the person that got the F most likely didn't try hard enough to get a good grade. so really are all equal. it's just some people don't work as hard as others so it seems like they are dumb, but they really do have the potential. I have more to backup my arguement but honestly i just don't feel like talking about it anymore right now.
ReplyDeleteVery true. I understand what you're saying with this. I also feel that it's like some people DO have to work harder than others. I don't know where I'm going with this anymore. I'll figure it out later and make adjustments to this post.
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